Treat YOURSELF as you want others to treat you.
When we feel that our requests or suggestions are being ignored, dismissed or resisted, remember that the every time you feel that someone is mistreating you, that event is presented to you as a “nudge” to get you to look inside yourself. In the case of feeling like someone is ignoring, dismissing or resisting your request or suggestion, ask yourself, is there some way that I am ignoring, dismissing or resisting something that I know would be in my best interest to do?
Having trouble coming up with some instances? Think about those times when you say to yourself, “what is my problem, I know that [fill-in the blank, e.g. going to the gym or yoga or taking a walk, etc.] would be so good for me and that I’d be glad I did it afterward, but I just don’t do it!” Right there, we know we have ignored, dismissed and resisted our intuition, our inner being, by not getting ourselves out of bed or off the couch and doing what is best for ourselves. What’s worse, we pretend we didn’t even hear the inner guidance (ignored it), then we moved on without responding (dismissed it) or we just talked back and said “no, I’m not doing it!” (resisted it).
It may surprise you, but if we stop ignoring, dismissing and resisting our inner guidance, that behavior will stop showing up in our life. That does not mean we must do what our inner guidance is telling us at that particular moment. We can disagree, but we must at least acknowledge and consciously respond to the guidance, even if we don’t do it. Otherwise, we are sending a subconscious message, that our inner guidance (that is, who we are) has little or no value and so insignificant that it does not deserve a response even. Could it be that easy? YES! Not convinced? Try the experiment below. The results will likely surprise you.
Do you like experimenting? Try this experiment. The next time you hear that inner voice saying “I really should get up and [fill-in the blank, e.g. go to the gym or yoga, etc.], get up and just do it, or if after thinking it through it is not the best time for it, consciously respond to yourself by thanking yourself for the guidance, and letting yourself know that you understand, but disagree.
Also, if you have been ignored, dismissed or resisted on a consistent basis by a partner, close relative or boss, I suggest reading the book, Controlling People: How to Recognize, Understand, and Deal with People Who Try to Control You, by Patricia Evans, 2003. The reason why people treat people like that, may surprise you. Here is the book promo statement on Amazon.com “Learn how to ‘break the spell’ of control with Patricia Evans’ new bestseller. Already hailed by Oprah Winfrey, Controlling People deals with issues big and small – revealing the thought processes of those who seek to control in order to provide a ‘spell-breaking’ mind-set for those who suffer this insidious manipulation. Invaluable insight and advice for those who seek support.”
